Spencer: I’ve Failed at Everything. It Made Me Who I Am.
What if the life you built looks successful on paper… but deep down, you still feel trapped, exhausted, or not enough?
In this episode of Unexpected Happiness, Ariel talks with Spencer about fear, freedom, failure, self-worth, and the surprising process of figuring out what you actually want out of life.
Spencer shares how growing up around entrepreneurs changed the way he views failure, why some of his biggest mistakes became his greatest teachers, and what happened after a business he built was shut down because he didn’t understand the regulations.
The conversation also explores his long struggle with body image and self-worth, including the moment he realized he had spent years chasing external expectations instead of asking himself what truly brought him peace, joy, and freedom.
From creating a vision board that simply said “no,” to redefining success from millions of dollars to enough time, meaningful work, and presence with family, Spencer reflects on what it means to stop living under a pile of “shoulds.”
The episode also dives into the women’s retreats he now leads, where many women arrive feeling disconnected from themselves, burned out, afraid of judgment, and unsure how to access joy anymore.
Through it all, Spencer returns to the same message again and again: freedom starts when you stop living from fear and start remembering your own worth.
Listen to this episode if you want to:
Rethink failure and hear why mistakes may teach us more than success ever could.
Understand how fear, comparison, and external expectations quietly shape the way we live.
Learn what it can look like to define “enough” for yourself instead of endlessly chasing more.
Hear an honest conversation about body image, self-worth, and learning to treat yourself with more care.
Explore why so many people feel trapped even after building the life they thought they wanted.
Be reminded that peace, freedom, and joy may have more to do with self-acceptance than achievement
